A Wedding Caterer’s Careful Plans Get Destroyed By An Insane Mother Of A Bride

It Was A Mother’s Time To Shine (So She Believed)

Weddings are stressful. They are stressful for the couple getting married and their families, but they are also stressful for the vendors hired to make sure the day goes just right for the couple. It’s a responsibility that vendors take seriously and it’s what gives them pride in their work.

For one caterer, who we’ll call Becky, making sure the food and the meal service is perfect is everything to her. Of course, sometimes, things get completely out of control and go completely sideways. At no point in her nearly decade-long career in the business had she ever encountered a mother of a bride like she did at one of her very first weddings. A mother who had also declared herself the official wedding planner. A mother who had never been married herself and, according to Becky, saw her daughter’s wedding as “her chance to finally soak up all that love and joy that comes with such a day.”

You know this isn’t going to end well for anyone.

The Mother Takes Control

Reflecting on the events of the wedding, Becky realized she should have recognized the warning signs that presented themselves at the very first tasting. The mother of the bride had declared herself the wedding planner and, maybe worse, described herself as a “yelper and food critic.” And yeah, many are probably rolling their eyes already, knowing where this is going.

Becky was pretty young and naive, just a few months into her career and barely 18 years old at the time, so she didn’t see it coming. Actually, the fact that she was so young brought the ire of the mother of the bride, who Becky said, “looked at me…and scoffed. ‘You’re trusting children to pull this off? They could never satiate my refined palate.'”

Oh boy. But Becky was professional and took it in stride, trying to move on. Thankfully for the first time (and the last time), the mother of the bride kept quiet. That is, until she didn’t. As they went through the seating arrangements, Becky explained, “The mother of the bride was silent through most of it until we got to coordinating seats and serving orders. She demanded a seat at the wedding party’s table, right in the middle.” In the middle of what you ask? Only the place that no bride or groom wants their mother/mother-in-law to sit.

The Planning And The Problems Begin

She not only wanted to sit at the main table, she wanted to sit directly beside the bride and groom, totally pushing the maid of honor and the best man to the side.

Was she serious? Dead serious. According to Becky, it took over an hour arguing before it was agreed that she would sit next to the maid of honor, with the MOH separating mommy craziest from her daughter. Becky just rolled with the punches, she was going to concentrate on making the reception great for the bride and the groom, a couple that had been through it all. They were “high school sweethearts who managed to weather the good, bad and ugly of high school, college, career building, and long-distance love.” They were also planning a very complicated wedding. As Becky describes, “Their wedding was quite elaborate and required the best out of each vendor, so there was very little room for error.” Becky knew she had her work cut out for her, and that doesn’t even factor in the mother of the bride. Eventually, everything was set. The menu and the seating chart were set, everything was ready to go.

It wouldn’t last. The problems continued up until the night before the wedding.

You Just Roll With The Mother’s Changes

“A month before the wedding, we received a call from the mother of the bride/’wedding planner’ that the menu had to change because of a recent dietary issue with the groom,” Becky said. She must have had that “here we go” feeling. She seemed to sense something was off, but it was the mother of the bride, so she rolled with it. That was a mistake.

Then a week before the wedding, Becky got another call from the mother of the bride, informing her that 20 guests had changed their mind about attending the wedding, so there would be 20 other people attending in their absence who would need to amend their dinner orders.

At this point, Becky was very suspicious. She explained, “This struck us as a bit odd so we called the bride to confirm, and when she answered, she sounded exasperated. When we explained the call from her mother/’planner’, she was confused but whatever was going on distracted her to the point that she said she was sure it was fine and to go ahead and make the changes.”

Becky made the changes, the mother of the bride was happy and all was set for the big day, which was taking place in just about a week’s time. Becky’s feeling of foreboding didn’t go away and she’d later wish she’d listened to her gut a little more closely.

Disaster Strikes The Rehearsal Dinner

Thankfully, Becky was not involved in the rehearsal dinner, which was held the night before the wedding. When she arrived at the wedding the next day, she learned from the pastor that there was some serious funny business going on and “the bride and groom didn’t even go to their rehearsal dinner because of the drama.”

The bride and groom didn’t even attend their own rehearsal dinner! How bad was this wedding going to get? Becky knew she had to make sure everything was perfect on her end. “We were ready to take on the world to make this bride and her hubby to be the happiest they’ve ever been.” They went to work to make it so.

It wouldn’t be easy. The mother definitely wasn’t going to let that happen.

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